Do you really need a mentor?

Why would anyone mentor you?

Are you ready to listen to someone who has been where you are now?

How many times have you said the famous cliché, “If only I knew then what I know now?”  Well, just that one question is enough to make anyone think about the importance of looking for a mentor.  In the 21st Century it is all about time, time, time, and more TIME.  Why do you think this website is called Time Money Problems? Saving time means your induction into your field, such as becoming a successful entrepreneur, will happen at a faster pace.

The cool aspect of having a mentor is the fact it doesn’t matter who you are or what your age is. You can be 14 or you can be 74. One of the most influential people in the world, Bill Gates, had a mentor named Warren Buffet; and Warren Buffet was mentored by Ben Graham, another influential economist. Do you see the genius pattern and how it paid off in such a big way?

The universe

There are limits to everyone’s knowledge

Your Knowledge Has Limits

Have you realized that maybe you don’t know everything?

Perhaps, the most beautiful and intriguing thing about life is that you can always learn something from someone you didn’t know about. No one can ever possibly know everything about any subject or field of interest.  At this point of the article, as Oprah Winfrey states quite frequently, you should be having an “AHA moment”!

Mentors can provide constructive criticism and unbiased advice. They can also provide wisdom about career challenges and help you look at things in a better light. Everyday life can bring challenges that tend to allow our goals to take a detour.  But, guess what?–that mentor you choose can bring you right back to focus while giving you the support you need to overcome your most difficult challenges.  And whether you realize it or not mentors are learning from you as well.

Are You Ready for a Mentor?

Now the tricky question for the mentee is to honestly ask yourself is “Am I willing to truly listen and receive my mentor’s advice?”  People who only hear their own thoughts, will probably be unsuccessful in reaching their personal and career goals. Listening to a mentor’s thinking on your problem gives that added perspective that we all need.

If you disagree with your mentor’s advice or suggestions make sure you respond tactfully.  Tactfulness goes a long way in relationships because no one appreciates a person who always appears ungrateful or rebellious.

Without respect for each other the mentor will be reluctant to give you their honest opinion or insight. Remember the mentor is investing their time for you!

It is important for the mentee to acknowledge and respect the fact the mentor has already traveled the road you are about to begin.  A mentor perhaps can help you to avoid the mistakes of the nursery rhyme Humpty Dumpty, “Humpty Dumpty had a great wall and Humpty Dumpty had a great fall!  Good mentors should also develop your critical thinking skills, by asking you challenging “What If” scenarios you may not have thought of on your own.


A mentor has been there before you

Choosing a Mentor

Some helpful tips to consider when selecting a mentor:

  • Make sure they have the time to devote to the relationship
  • Share most of the same values
  • Identify a mentor successful in your field of interest
  • Select someone highly motivated
  • Select a mentor with good social and networking skills
  • Respect your mentor’s time and other commitments (e.g. don’t overload them with every little problem)
  • Always express your gratitude for their commitment to you

Even our greatest leaders, singers, actors all had a mentor or mentors that were able to bring out of them what they already had.  The benefits of having a mentor far outweigh the fact of not having one.  The mentor enables you to hit the bull’s eye of the target in a fraction of the time it would otherwise take!

Should you look for a Mentor? Yes, you must because you are much more likely to succeed with one than on your own. It might hurt your pride to acknowledge that you do not know everything but that is something you need to get over, today!

Joyce K. Barnes, the writer, is a business consultant in West Virginia. She offers consultations to local and national businesses at every level, from startups to international companies. Joyce is well qualified, with an MBA and comes highly recommended. Connect with Joyce K. Barnes on G+ or Twitter (@classyjkb).


Have you had a bad day?

Are you feeling down in the dumps?

Do you feel like other people have all the luck?

I’ve been there, I know how you feel, but I have found a solution. I make my own luck.

How Do You Get Lucky?

We all make our own luck all the time. If we are negative we attract bad luck. If we are positive we attract good luck. I

lucky crossed fingers

know it is very difficult to be positive when all kinds of unfortunate things are happening in your life but if you want to change your luck that’s what you have to do.

What is Luck?

Random events happen to everyone, but most are not really random. Events happen as a result of something you have done.

I hear people talk about good luck in avoiding car accidents.

It’s not good luck but high-level driving skills that allow the driver to anticipate what other road users might do. It is about reading the road ahead and setting up the car for the safest route through a bend. It is about having good tyres and a well-maintained vehicle. It is about concentration, never using the phone, never driving after drinking alcohol and not playing loud music while you are driving. None of that is luck.

The only bad luck I can imagine happening to a driver is if lightning strikes his car or if a bridge suddenly collapses in an earthquake.

What about other aspects of life? The same principles apply. You can control many aspects of your life that people think are random. If you want to be in the right place at the right time you need to put yourself out there; if you are in enough places then one of them is going to turn out to be at the right time.

How Do You Make Your Own Luck?

You make the right decisions. If you realise you have made a bad decision you undo it as far as you can and start afresh. None of us get things right first time every time, but you can do better second time around.

people talking over lunch

Talk to people in the real world

Talk to People

Luck often involves talking to the right people. That is only going to happen if you talk to lots of people; some of them will make good things happen for you. If you do not talk to people then why should any of them help you in any way?

Help People

I would go further and say that you need to help others, to pay it forward. Where’s the logic in that, you ask? I think it just makes you a better person, someone who is less wrapped up in himself and who others will see as being someone to associate with.

Lucky people all live like this; if you want to attract good luck then you must live by the same rules.

Make the Right Choices

Use your time wisely, constructively. There is a massive amount of knowledge out there that you need to learn. This is just as important as getting out there and meeting people.

Rather than reading a magazine or newspaper try downloading a self-improvement book or talking to the people around you.

Rather than updating your Facebook status take notice of the things that are happening all around you, the things you miss because you are engrossed in your online “social life”.

Rather than watching soap operas on television log on to or for inspiring videos and stories.

luck man silhouetted against the sky

Make your own luck

Take Control of Your Luck

You will always have good luck and bad luck. The thing is to grasp every element of good luck and make the most of it, use it to increase the likelihood of more good things happening. When bad luck happens just shrug it off and move on.

How Lucky Am I?

I count myself as lucky enough. I lost my job in 2010 and now realise that was the best thing that could have happened to me. I have grown mentally since being forced to generate my own income. I have networked and helped people and my life is richer for having met those people. Every penny I have earned in the past four years has come from people I have met online, people I have helped.

How Lucky Are You?

Are you ready to take control of Lady Luck, to increase the probability of good things happening in your life?

You have made a start by reading this. The next step is up to you. Can you change your unlucky habits and learn new, lucky ones?

Please use the comment box to respond to this article, to share your story. Your email address will not be published, so your privacy is secure.

Phil Turner is a writer from Cork in Ireland. He helps people to improve their lives and to realise their entrepreneurial dreams.

Phil organises conferences and seminars where he helps participants to change their dreams of a better life into reality. Follow Phil on Twitter @Philtrate and on Google G+.


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